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Thursday, October 9, 2025

The Illusion of Control — Why We Struggle to Let Go

 a person standing on a cliff at sunrise, hands open toward the sky, with light breaking through the clouds, conveying release, trust, and openness — symbolizing surrendering control to God

“Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” — Proverbs 3:5–6

 

The Illusion of Control

One of the most persistent obstacles to surrender is the belief that we are in control. We plan, strategize, calculate risks, and convince ourselves that if we just try hard enough, we can manage every outcome. Modern culture reinforces this mindset: “Be the master of your fate. Take charge. Hustle harder.”

But beneath all this striving lies a quiet truth: much of life remains outside our grasp. The weather changes, the market crashes, a relationship ends, illness strikes, opportunities vanish. Life is filled with reminders that we are not sovereign. And yet, we cling desperately to control, as if our worth and security depend on it.

The illusion of control is comforting because it shields us from the vulnerability of trust. To let go feels like stepping into the unknown, and the unknown frightens us. Control promises predictability. Surrender asks us to embrace mystery.

Why We Struggle to Let Go

At the heart of our struggle is fear. Fear of lack. Fear of failure. Fear of being abandoned by God if we stop striving. Deep down, we may believe that unless we hold tightly to the reins, everything will fall apart.

For many of us, this fear was shaped by childhood. Maybe we grew up in homes where security was scarce, where we learned early to depend only on ourselves. Or maybe we absorbed teachings that portrayed God as distant, demanding, or conditional. No wonder trust feels unsafe.

We struggle to let go because surrender exposes the false foundation we’ve built. It forces us to confront our smallness — and simultaneously, to awaken to God’s greatness.

Personal Reflection

I remember a season in my own life when control became my survival strategy. Every day, I carried the weight of financial burdens, career expectations, and family responsibilities. I created meticulous plans, thinking that if I just “got it right,” everything would finally fall into place. But instead of peace, I found exhaustion. Instead of freedom, I lived in anxiety.

It wasn’t until I admitted, “I can’t do this anymore,” that I experienced a shift. That moment of weakness became the doorway to grace. The illusion of control had to crumble before I could glimpse the strength that comes from God’s provision.

The Invitation

Surrender does not mean abandoning wisdom, discipline, or effort. It means acknowledging that our effort alone cannot guarantee the outcomes of life. It means doing our part, but with open hands, releasing the rest to God.

We are not called to be the architects of reality, but participants in God’s unfolding plan. When we surrender the illusion of control, we make space for His presence to guide us in ways beyond our imagining.

Letting go is not passive resignation; it is active trust. It is saying:

“God, I will walk faithfully, but I entrust the path and its outcome into Your hands.”

And in that trust, peace begins to take root.

Journaling Guide

  1. Where in your life right now do you feel the strongest urge to control outcomes?
  2. What fears surface when you think about letting go of those areas?
  3. How has the illusion of control brought more anxiety than peace in your life?
  4. Can you recall a moment when you surrendered something and later saw God’s hand at work?
  5. Write a prayer of release for one area you’re ready to place in God’s care.

 

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The Illusion of Control — Why We Struggle to Let Go

  “Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your pat...